A cheatsheet on Discourse.

The three gates of speech: Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates.

You should attempt to re-express your target's position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, "Thanks, I wish I'd thought of putting it that way."
—Rapoport's First Rule
How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
—Kevin Kelly
Kings speak for the realm, governors for the state, popes for the church. Indeed, the titled, as titled, cannot speak with anyone.
—James P. Carse, Finite and Infinite Games

The arguments rankings are taken from Scott Alexander, and the responses rankings are taken from Paul Graham. This page originally written and collected by Devine Lu Linvega